Be Emotionally INTELLIGENT!

As is the general notion, in the competitive and challenging world, out of the two quotients one tends to give more weight to intelligence. However, Coleman, who revealed the application of the concept of EI, stats: To be successful at work, one needs to depend only 20% on IQ and the rest 80% on EQ.

        Earlier, companies used to make recruitments solely on the basis of IQ. But, times have changed. Today, recruitments for key positions are focused more on EQ than the IQ of an individual.

WHAT IS YOUR EQ?

To have an idea, try filling up the questionnaire below:

Q.1 You were eligible for a promotion but, it was given to your junior. You are emotionally upset. What will you do?

a. Speak to your boss to reconsider his decision

b. Vent your frustration on the junior who was promoted

c. Move to the court to demand justice

d. Contemplate to identify your shortcomings and improve your performance

Q.2 A management trainee complains after a few weeks of his recruitment that he is not taken seriously by his subordinates. What will you suggest to him?

a. To handle the situation himself without troubling you

b. To ignore the situation

c. To be bold enough to face the challenge and solve it

d. Empathies with him, suggesting ways to solve the matter

Q.3 Due to some misunderstanding, your colleagues stop talking to you. But, you are convinced that it is no fault of yours. What will be your reaction?

a. Wait for them to approach you and be in talking terms again

b. Approach them and start talking to them

c. Leave the matter for time to heal

d. Approach a third person to mediate and resolve

Q.4 You are a professor. While delivering a lecture, a student comments on some point mentioned by you in a way that it hurts your self-esteem. What will be your reaction?

a. Report to the Principal about the student’s behavior

b. Order the student to immediately leave the classroom

Ask the student to report to you in the staff-room after the lecture

d. Judge the emotions of the class and assure them to make necessary changes at your end

Q.5 Your are criticized for your behavior every day. What will be the course of your behavior?

a. Stop paying heed to  what others say

b. Carefully listen to what they say

c. Become upset

D. Think of ways to change your behavior

Q.6 Your are on an aircraft. Suddenly you get to hear an announcement that the plane has been hijacked. How will you react?

a. Blame your luck

b. Become very emotional and wait for instructions

c. Pick up a magazine and start reading without paying any heed to the announcement

d. Become panicky and cry out not to travel by air in the future

Q.7 Your grown up son argues with you every now and then saying that you cannot impose your old-fashioned ideas on him. How will you tackle the matter?

a. Accept what he says and assume a low-profile position in the family

b. Take him to a Psychologist to make him learn to adjust with the situations

c. Explain your opinion patiently

d. Talk to him, understand him patiently

Q.8 You had an argument with your spouse. Both of you are not talking to each other but are also mentally disturbed with the situation. What will you do?

a. Will maintain your stand thinking you are right

b. Try to resolve by analyzing the reasons for the argument

c. Will make the first move and try to cool down the situation

d. Wait for your spouse to approach and resolve the issue

Q.9 While talking to a group of people, you feel

a. It is not easy to convey your point of view

b. You are not fully comfortable in conveying your ideas

c. You are absolutely comfortable

d. You feel like improving with practice to convey better

Q.10 Suppose this is the last moment of your life. What would you say about yourself?

a. Successful: I am contented to have done whatever was possible to make myself happy

b. OK: It was a mixed experience- 50:50

c. Comfortable: Destiny is in God’s hands; man is just puppet

d. Uncomfortable: I deserved better

Qs.	a.	b.	c.	d.
1.	15	5	10	20
2.	5	10	15	20
3.	15	20	5	10
4.	5	10	15	20
5.	10	20	5	15
6.	5	20	15	10
7.	5	10	20	15

8.	5	15	20	10
9.	10	15	20	5
10.	20	15	10	5

The scores directly relate to one’s level of EQ. In order to make a mark in the competitive world, it is indeed essential to get hold of a regulating device in our personality, which can set the levels of both the quotients optimally. One needs to understand that “Emotional Intelligence’ is the innate potential to feel, use, communicate, recognize, remember, learn from, manage, understand and explain emotions. Certainly, the requisite regulating devise for this purpose cannot be procured from anywhere outside. As a matter of fact, after realizing the inefficiency of drugs and other means. today the focus area of scientists in this regard has become ‘exploration of the effects of meditation on the brain’.

A study was published in the International Journal of Advanced Multidisciplinary Research and Review (ISSN 2330-1201), Volume 2, No.3, 2014. It involved 48 Russian-speaking migrants from the former Soviet Union between the ages of 19 and 54, who resided in the territory of modern Germany. Being in the initial stage of migrants. Under such circumstances, measuring their level of emotional intelligence implied that it would take into account the most acute psychological problems as well. Thus, the sample constituted of participants facing significant pressure on their minds due to their objective life circumstances. The participants were asked to meditate daily After studying the results, researchers concluded that-meditation could be a potentially effective tool for influencing the emotional intelligence as a key factor in the social-psychological adaptation of migrants”

Likewise, several research studies verify the authenticity of this fact that meditation is an effective tool for regulating ‘Emotional Intelligence’. Therefore, catch hold of the right technique of meditation and cherish a perfect balance between the brain and the heart. i.e. intelligence and emotions to set an example of a truly ‘Emotionally Intelligent’ personality!