Be Emotionally INTELLIGENT!

As is the general notion, in the competitive and challenging world, out of the two quotients one tends to give more weight to intelligence. However, Coleman, who revealed the application of the concept of EI, stats: To be successful at work, one needs to depend only 20% on IQ and the rest 80% on EQ.

        Earlier, companies used to make recruitments solely on the basis of IQ. But, times have changed. Today, recruitments for key positions are focused more on EQ than the IQ of an individual.

WHAT IS YOUR EQ?

To have an idea, try filling up the questionnaire below:

Q.1 You were eligible for a promotion but, it was given to your junior. You are emotionally upset. What will you do?

a. Speak to your boss to reconsider his decision

b. Vent your frustration on the junior who was promoted

c. Move to the court to demand justice

d. Contemplate to identify your shortcomings and improve your performance

Q.2 A management trainee complains after a few weeks of his recruitment that he is not taken seriously by his subordinates. What will you suggest to him?

a. To handle the situation himself without troubling you

b. To ignore the situation

c. To be bold enough to face the challenge and solve it

d. Empathies with him, suggesting ways to solve the matter

Q.3 Due to some misunderstanding, your colleagues stop talking to you. But, you are convinced that it is no fault of yours. What will be your reaction?

a. Wait for them to approach you and be in talking terms again

b. Approach them and start talking to them

c. Leave the matter for time to heal

d. Approach a third person to mediate and resolve

Q.4 You are a professor. While delivering a lecture, a student comments on some point mentioned by you in a way that it hurts your self-esteem. What will be your reaction?

a. Report to the Principal about the student’s behavior

b. Order the student to immediately leave the classroom

Ask the student to report to you in the staff-room after the lecture

d. Judge the emotions of the class and assure them to make necessary changes at your end

Q.5 Your are criticized for your behavior every day. What will be the course of your behavior?

a. Stop paying heed to  what others say

b. Carefully listen to what they say

c. Become upset

D. Think of ways to change your behavior

Q.6 Your are on an aircraft. Suddenly you get to hear an announcement that the plane has been hijacked. How will you react?

a. Blame your luck

b. Become very emotional and wait for instructions

c. Pick up a magazine and start reading without paying any heed to the announcement

d. Become panicky and cry out not to travel by air in the future

Q.7 Your grown up son argues with you every now and then saying that you cannot impose your old-fashioned ideas on him. How will you tackle the matter?

a. Accept what he says and assume a low-profile position in the family

b. Take him to a Psychologist to make him learn to adjust with the situations

c. Explain your opinion patiently

d. Talk to him, understand him patiently

Q.8 You had an argument with your spouse. Both of you are not talking to each other but are also mentally disturbed with the situation. What will you do?

a. Will maintain your stand thinking you are right

b. Try to resolve by analyzing the reasons for the argument

c. Will make the first move and try to cool down the situation

d. Wait for your spouse to approach and resolve the issue

Q.9 While talking to a group of people, you feel

a. It is not easy to convey your point of view

b. You are not fully comfortable in conveying your ideas

c. You are absolutely comfortable

d. You feel like improving with practice to convey better

Q.10 Suppose this is the last moment of your life. What would you say about yourself?

a. Successful: I am contented to have done whatever was possible to make myself happy

b. OK: It was a mixed experience- 50:50

c. Comfortable: Destiny is in God’s hands; man is just puppet

d. Uncomfortable: I deserved better

Qs.	a.	b.	c.	d.
1.	15	5	10	20
2.	5	10	15	20
3.	15	20	5	10
4.	5	10	15	20
5.	10	20	5	15
6.	5	20	15	10
7.	5	10	20	15

8.	5	15	20	10
9.	10	15	20	5
10.	20	15	10	5

The scores directly relate to one’s level of EQ. In order to make a mark in the competitive world, it is indeed essential to get hold of a regulating device in our personality, which can set the levels of both the quotients optimally. One needs to understand that “Emotional Intelligence’ is the innate potential to feel, use, communicate, recognize, remember, learn from, manage, understand and explain emotions. Certainly, the requisite regulating devise for this purpose cannot be procured from anywhere outside. As a matter of fact, after realizing the inefficiency of drugs and other means. today the focus area of scientists in this regard has become ‘exploration of the effects of meditation on the brain’.

A study was published in the International Journal of Advanced Multidisciplinary Research and Review (ISSN 2330-1201), Volume 2, No.3, 2014. It involved 48 Russian-speaking migrants from the former Soviet Union between the ages of 19 and 54, who resided in the territory of modern Germany. Being in the initial stage of migrants. Under such circumstances, measuring their level of emotional intelligence implied that it would take into account the most acute psychological problems as well. Thus, the sample constituted of participants facing significant pressure on their minds due to their objective life circumstances. The participants were asked to meditate daily After studying the results, researchers concluded that-meditation could be a potentially effective tool for influencing the emotional intelligence as a key factor in the social-psychological adaptation of migrants”

Likewise, several research studies verify the authenticity of this fact that meditation is an effective tool for regulating ‘Emotional Intelligence’. Therefore, catch hold of the right technique of meditation and cherish a perfect balance between the brain and the heart. i.e. intelligence and emotions to set an example of a truly ‘Emotionally Intelligent’ personality!

MEDITATION

Meditation offers the perfect nutrition for the Soul-which is the hub of all the essential traits like positivity, wisdom, will-power, etc. In fact, it is the only means to nourish the Self and cherish the innumerable benefits which are rewarded when one comes in contact with his inner being. In the January 2011 issue of Psychiatry Research: Neuroimaging, Massachusetts General and the University of Massachusetts Medical School reported results of one significant clinical study. This study highlighted how meditation can transform our brain. It was an 8-week study done on 16 subjects who meditated for 30 minutes every day. MRI brain scans were done at the beginning and end of the study. Surprisingly, in the span of 56 days alone, meditation casted such an impact on the brain that each subject’s MRI displayed an increase in the gray matter in the Hippocampus. Hippocampus is the part of the brain which is responsible for learning, memory, and special orientation. Simultaneously, a reduction in the gray matter of the Amygdala was also noted. The Amygdala is identified as the fear, stress and anxiety center of the brain. Scientists were amazed to see that in less than two months, meditation can change the physical structure of the brain and the way it is wired!

In another research done by the Yale and Harvard universities, the brain scans revealed that meditation increased the thickness of the gray matter of those parts responsible for attention and for processing sensory input. The increase in the thickness was seen proportional to the duration of meditation.

Beside this, studies have revealed that meditation protects the brain’s cortex from the effects of aging. By protecting cells from premature aging, it thus results in longevity.

On the cellular level, meditation has been found to facilitate neuronal connections- which implies a better performance of the brain. Simultaneously, noticable structural changes have been seen in the regions of the brain which relate to traits like empathy, emotion-regulation, etc.  

Our Commitment towards the mission ‘Yug Nirman’

Each member of the Pandavas exhibited a wonderful commitment towards his mission:
1. Abhimanyu, Arjun’s son, a 16 years old young boy went on to the extent of bravely jumping into the well-knit trap by the Kauravas, despite knowing that he was ignorant of the art of retreat from the mesh. His unfailing commitment, summed up with his unmatched courage, took the cumulative effort of 7 powerful Kuravas warriors to overpower him.

2. Ghatotkach, Bhima’s son, set a remarkable example of commitment. Even after he was killed, he intentionally fell on the Kuravas’ army to kill their soldiers. The story is like this.
          In the Mahābhārata, Ghatotkacha was summoned by Bhima to fight on the Pandava side in the Kurukshetra battle. Invoking his magical powers, he wrought great havoc in the Kaurava army. In particular after the death of Jayadratha, when the battle continued on past sunset, his powers were at their most effective (at night).  Ghatotkacha, the half-asura son of Bhima, began to destroy the Kaurava forces. It was a characteristic of the asuras that they became extraordinarily powerful at night. Their magical powers were also extremely effective. Duryodhana and Karna bravely stood and fought him. Finally, when it seemed that Ghatotkacha would destroy all the Kaurava forces that very night, Shakuni and Duryodhana called upon Karna to use all means necessary. Karna engaged him in a ferocious duel, with every single warrior from both sides watching in silent awe. As Ghatotkacha began to use his skills of dark magic, Karna had to use the Indra Shakti, which had been gifted to him by Lord Indra in return for his divine armour and earrings. Using this weapon, Karna killed the Asura Ghatotkacha. It is said that when Gatotkacha realized that he was going to be mortally wounded by the weapon,he assumed a gigantic size. When the huge body fell, it crushed one 'Akshauhini' of military which was an ancient battle formation that consisted of 21,870 chariots ; 21,870 elephants; 65,610 cavalry and 109,350 infantry. 
      In other words, he served his organization not for only through his life, but also death!
 Out of the two, Abhimanyu died first—on the thirteenth day of the war. Ghatotkach died next, on the 14th day of the battle. They were considered even better than their fathers in courage and power. While Ghatotkach was better than Bhim in wielding the mace, Abhimanyu was

better than Arjun in archery. In a nutshell, a member of an organization can prove to be its real asset if his personality is adorned with the attribute of continuous self-improvement, focused approach towards his goal, and commitment. Additionally, the personality of the members of an organization should not be afflicted by the A, E, I, O, U syndrome, i.e. attachment, ego, inferiority, obsessiveness, and urge for unjustified power, as it was in the case of the Kuravas Enterprise. The real TQM (Total Quality Management of head, heart and hand vis-à-vis knowledge, inspiration and work) is what is needed for any organization to be a real success!.   

URAD-DAL

Black gram or black lentil is known as urad dal in Hindi. In texts of ayurveda this bean is known as “MASHA”. Black gram is a bean grown mainly in south Asia. The plant of this bean is erect and hairy. It is an annual herb. It has a tap root which branches to form branched roots. The cylindrical pod of this plant contains seeds. The pods are usually six cm long.

Nutritional facts: Black gram is rich in vitamins, minerals and devoid of cholesterol. It is store house of calcium, potassium, iron, magnesium, copper, manganese etc. Urad dal contains vitamins and dietary fibers. Due to high potassium content urad dal acts as an aphrodisiac. (High blood pressure occurs due to high sodium level and low potassium level. Black gram contains plenty of potassium. This helps to balance sodium potassium level and reduce hypertension or high blood pressure. There is a strong link between hypertension or high blood pressure and erectile dysfunction. As potassium helps to reduce high blood pressure, it also helps in erectile dysfunction. )

Ayurveda Medicinal properties of Black gram or urad dal:

According to texts of ayurveda this bean is heavy to digest and increases the moistness of body tissues. It is sweet to taste and hot in potency. All these properties help to normalize or calm vitiated vata. Consumption of this bean increases kapha and pitta.

Imbalanced vata dosha causes many diseases and also leads to men health problems like erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, low sperm count and motility etc. Hence Ayurveda acharyas recommend use of “masha” in many health conditions.

Anti inflammatory properties: According to principles of ayurveda vitiation of vata causes inflammation of tissues and initiates the sensation of pain.“Masha” or urad dal normalizes vata and hence has anti inflammatory properties. Usually a hot poultice of black gram is used in inflammation of joints and muscle pain. Massaging with herbal oil processed with this wonderful herb helps to reduce pain and inflammation

Nervous system disorders:  This herb strengthens nervous system. Ayurveda acharyas recommend preparations of this herb in nervous debility, partial paralysis, facial paralysis and other disorders which involve nervous system.

Disorders of digestive system: “Vigna Mungo” or masha helps to increase bulk of stools. The moistness increasing property coupled with bulk increasing quality helps in easy movement of bowel.  Therefore usage of this bean is recommended in conditions like constipation, piles and colic. This herb is a very good liver stimulant.

Bala for Muscle Strength

Ayurveda acharyas have grouped this plant under Balya (body strengthening herbs), Brimhaniya ( body bulk increasing herbs), Prajasthapana ( herbs used to cure infertility), Madhura skanda (herbs with sweet taste) and Vatasamshamana (Herbs which normalize vata dosha).

According to ayurveda principles the plant Bala is light to digest and increases moistness of tissues. It is sweet to taste and acts as body coolant.

Medicinal properties of Bala (Sida Cordifolia):

This plant normalizes Vata and pitta. Hence it is used in diseases which are caused due to vitiation of vata and pitta. Bala has anti inflammatory properties. Its preparations are used as external applications in swelling of wounds and inflammation of eyes. Oils prepared using this herb are very useful in arthritis and other diseases which affect joints. These oils help to reduce pain and inflammation. Bala normalizes vata and sooths excited nerves. For this reason the oil prepared using this herb is used to massage patients who suffer from paralysis, cervical spondylosis, facial paralysis etc.

Sida Cordifolia controls motility of large intestine. It helps to absorb water and nutrients from intestines. Hence its preparations are widely used in Grahani or Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS).

This herb is a very good cardiac tonic and reduces petechial hemorrhage. Ayurveda acharyas recommend use of this plant in these conditions.

Bala is known for its “shukrala” properties. Shukrala means increasing shukra dhatu. Because of this property bala is used in ayurvedic preparations which increase sperm count and sperm motility. It helps to increase quality and quantity of semen. This herb is mainly used in male and female infertility. Texts of ayurveda praise the herb Bala as Vrishya (aphrodisiac). Hence this herb is used in conditions like erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation.

The herbal preparations which are used in Female infertility contain this herb as main ingredient as it acts as a very good uterine tonic.

The diuretic properties of this herb help in cystitis and it rejuvenates urinary system.

Bala is a very good rasayana herb. Hence it is widely used in convalescing patients as it supplies essential nutrients.  It helps to build a healthy body and strengthens body immune system.

This herb is used in African folk medicine to treat various conditions like bronchitis, asthma, nasal congestion, stomatitis etc.

With thanks from the website of Dr. Savitha Suri:

http://www.ayurhelp.com/articles/ayurveda-medicinal-properties-bala-sida-cordifolia#.VLJ7sMuUde8

Give Happiness = Get Happiness

To participate in a group activity, 300 children of a school gathered in a hall. The hall had 300 balloons on which the names of the children who entered the hall were encrypted. The balloons were randomly laid on the floor. The instructor entered the hall and said, “Children, this hall has a balloon for each one of you. The task for you is to ‘find out and pick up the balloon that has your name written on it’. The time limit is 15 minutes.

          The activity began………….

          5 minutes…. 10 minutes…… 15 minutes…. and time up!

          Ah! 99% of the children failed to complete the task. All of them stood with disappointment on their faces.

  Instructor: Don’t be disheartened, kids. Let us do the task again, but with a slight modification. ‘Pick up any balloon. Call the name of your friend whose name is there on the balloon. Hand over the balloon to him/her’.

          This time also the time limit is 15 minutes.

The activity began again.

Wow! Within 5 minutes all children were standing with their respective balloons.

The instructor then addressed the children and said, “Dear kids! This activity demonstrates the golden rule of happiness. When you try to seek happiness just for yourself, the chances of getting it are very bleak. But when you give happiness to other, it boomerangs upon you! Therefore, remember the golden rule: “Give happiness = Get happiness”!

Spiritual Transformation Though Saktipat

Description of incidents of transfer of spiritual power by the Guru to the sisya (disciple) through saktipat is found in many yogic texts. Therefore there is a natural curiosity to know the veracity or otherwise of such a phenomenon. Here let us mention two instances of recent past.

   It has been mentioned in the book titled “Vivekanand Sanchayan” that Vivekanand vividly experienced the transference of immense spiritual energy into his being by his Divine Teacher, Paramhansa Sri Ramakrishna. Vivekanand has himself described this experience eloquently and it is this supreme energy, which enabled him to carry the message of his Master around the world. Swami Yoganand has also described in his book “Autobiography of a Yogi” a number of such phenomena. There are many other authentic recorded instances of this nature in occult and mystic literature of Indian and the world. Genuinely interested readers are advised to study such works to understand the process of this occult science.

There is no doubt about the truth of saktipat in the tradition of Guru- sisya. With the help and blessings of a Satguru coupled with his own sincere sadhana even an ordinary looking person can reach the acme of mystic experience. The pages of ancient history are full of such instances, but the present-day self-appointed pseudo-gurus have made saktipat a cheap feat of jugglery and created confusion about this occult phenomenon in rational minds. Therefore, it is essential to unferstand its true nature.

The disciple receives the blessing and boons of the Guru according to his inner faith and worthiness. Every disciple gets in the measure of his sraddha (Faith). This is the philosophy behind saktipat. This is a process, which requires time and effort and which is completed by the dedicated sadhana of a sadhak under the guidance of a genuine Guru. This is not a sudden process, which gives instant miraculous result. Rather, it is a long-time mode of sadhana with the aid of which the disciple develops his own dormant powers and potentialities.

The boon of saktipat is not accessible to everyone. Only those seekers get this precious gift who can tranquilly retain and assimilate the descent of this immense occult power. The glorious lives of Vivekanand and Yoganand, after such a saktipat by their gurus, are eloquent example of the radical spiritual transformation. But such transformations occur generally in the case of chosen souls who come to earth with specially assigned tasks. There is no relevance of questions like what was realized at the time of saktipat or what visions were revealed? What is significant is what was the outcome of this massive transference of spiritual force? It radically transforms the recipient. But the latter has to be pure, strong and worthy enough so receive, assimilate and hold the energy so transferred and selflessly and wisely utilize it for the noble purpose for which it has been gifted to him.

For more detail read AUTHOR'S book “A Guide to Spiritual Transformation”